I shared this with my siblings in our family chat room,I hope this benefit us all, Baarakallahu fiikum.
In Islam, it is encouraged that when a child reaches the age of 7 we tell them to pray.
Abu Dawood (459) and Ahmad (6650) narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (247).
The scholars have also explained that every other acts of worship should be given to them at this age and they should be encouraged to do them. They are light years to be coming oblidged to do these acts of worship as they are to be smacked when they are 10 when they don’t do them(Salah in particular. ).
From experience, the 3 years practice period is rarely enough time for the kids to get used to act of iibadah. So you can imagine if one is not to take the advice of the rosul and allow the children to do as they please.
Ramadhaan is coming, encourage them to fast. Encourage your 7 years old girl to use the head scarf or hijab(if they don’t, this is more applicable to sisters in the west as here most girls of this age wear at least the ceremonial hijab! Tell her stories of the brave muslimah who did this for the sake of Allah. In a clime where the hijab is less common, it’s would be nice to talk more about it. Till now, I have a kid who isn’t completely used to the hijab’s every rule (even with the fact that her mum and 2 elder siblings use the hijab…). She would more often than not wear it when she needs to get something outside the main house but close enough to dash inside the house. But if she thinks she can rush out and do whatever without her hijab when she thinks no one would see her, she would do. We also have to remind her about her Salah as she gets carried away sometimes. This shows we cannot leave it till they become bulugh (the sharia stage of becoming an adult), so let’s encourage them.
Fasting too should not be left to Ramadhaan alone in tarbiyyah (raising kids the Islamic way.), this is the month that the prophet would fast most aside Ramadhaan! So while they are home from school, we can encourage them by fasting together and giving them rewards after. Let them know the treats awaiting them at completion, it excites them…
May Allah ease our journey into molding out precious gifts in their best forms and as slaves of Allah first before any other. May they love the deen even more than we do and may they be one of our links to jannah.